*whimpers*
Mar. 27th, 2003 08:22 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
inteligrrlI hate fandom. I hate fandom. I HATE fandom.
Why is it that online people feel free to say the most cruel awful spiteful things, things that no one should be allowed to say?
Yet again my some of my favorite fandom people are yelling at each other (I'm sure neither of them read my live journal, so most of you can stop worrying) and I just don't like it. They're both lovely talented people, who happen to rub each other the wrong way entirely. I couldn't bring myself to take sides, but I'd love to hug the one and clam down the other as it just hurts to see it.
At times I soooo want to ask "why can't we all just get along?" to the fandom at large.
Especially the talented people. In my (admittedly humble) observation the people with talent, true visible talent have a tendency to be a bit... prima dona-y. I'm not judging them for it, but I do know when and how to work around it, and if they've done a great job on something and want an ego stroke who am I to deny them? Like most people, if you're sweet to them they're sweet to you, which is probably why the people that do know me don't usually have a problem with me. But the true talents seem to feel they've got something to loose if they back down in a debate, so both go head to head and at the end develop bitter enmity, when they would have been fine had they both just agreed to disagree.
In other words, behaved like adults.
Despite, and occasionally because of these childish tendencies I still like and respect them, so it bothers me to see the absolute hatred that often ensues. I just don't like to see people be that mean.
I don't suppose it'd be possible to institute the policy![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
angeleledhwen and I came up with? If you must write something that expresses your dislike of someone/thing, write it as if you were sending it through their mother. Keep it nice enough that she wouldn't feel the need to set up a meeting with your mother to have it worked out. In other words, could we act as if the people we know are real people rather than this faceless embodiment of everything you dislike?
Please, be nice? Or just don't yell so much in public? Fitting as it is for this particular fandom, I'd rather not feel like hiding in a cupboard when I see your posts.
Why is it that online people feel free to say the most cruel awful spiteful things, things that no one should be allowed to say?
Yet again my some of my favorite fandom people are yelling at each other (I'm sure neither of them read my live journal, so most of you can stop worrying) and I just don't like it. They're both lovely talented people, who happen to rub each other the wrong way entirely. I couldn't bring myself to take sides, but I'd love to hug the one and clam down the other as it just hurts to see it.
At times I soooo want to ask "why can't we all just get along?" to the fandom at large.
Especially the talented people. In my (admittedly humble) observation the people with talent, true visible talent have a tendency to be a bit... prima dona-y. I'm not judging them for it, but I do know when and how to work around it, and if they've done a great job on something and want an ego stroke who am I to deny them? Like most people, if you're sweet to them they're sweet to you, which is probably why the people that do know me don't usually have a problem with me. But the true talents seem to feel they've got something to loose if they back down in a debate, so both go head to head and at the end develop bitter enmity, when they would have been fine had they both just agreed to disagree.
In other words, behaved like adults.
Despite, and occasionally because of these childish tendencies I still like and respect them, so it bothers me to see the absolute hatred that often ensues. I just don't like to see people be that mean.
I don't suppose it'd be possible to institute the policy
angeleledhwen and I came up with? If you must write something that expresses your dislike of someone/thing, write it as if you were sending it through their mother. Keep it nice enough that she wouldn't feel the need to set up a meeting with your mother to have it worked out. In other words, could we act as if the people we know are real people rather than this faceless embodiment of everything you dislike?Please, be nice? Or just don't yell so much in public? Fitting as it is for this particular fandom, I'd rather not feel like hiding in a cupboard when I see your posts.
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Date: 2003-03-28 10:25 am (UTC)*hug*
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Date: 2003-03-28 10:27 am (UTC)